My grandparents

This reading is in support of the St Thomas mission to support the Year of Faith and the Holy Father’s call for mission.

I would like to read from Mathew 19:

Some Pharisees came to Jesus, testing Him and asking, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any reason at all?” 4 And He answered and said, “Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning made them male and female, 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? 6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.”

I had the privilege of knowing my grandparents on my Mother’s side very well. I spent several weeks at their house in the summer’s we lived in the same state and we went by for Sunday dinner after church, pardon the phrase religiously.

My grandparents were an exceptional couple from the hills of West Virginia and they were married for 60 years and had nine children. Both of these milestones are rare in today’s world.

I took long walks with my grandfather through the mountains and we did such things as hunt copperhead snakes and dig up ginseng, while exploring the mountains around their small valley, or as they called it a holler.

On one of these long walks, once I was older and my attention had turned to girls I asked my Grandfather: “If a relationship is a 50 / 50 thing; then how does one know when he is giving his 50%.

My Grandfather thought about this one and began to laugh in what was one of the most unique and recognizable laughs that he was famous for.

He asked me, “Do you know what it is like to give 110% to something?” Being athletic and sports natured, I answered yes.

He then added “When you feel like you are giving 110% an then you reach down and give a little more; Your probably pretty close to that 50/50.”

I have never forgotten that and as we walked he went on to explain to me that we never know just how much the other person is doing for us, we can never know all the frustration and the support that they give or even the things that they resist saying.

The same is most likely true of our relationship with God. We do not see or recognize all the things that he does for us every day, and then we find it hard to remain committed to him or we don’t have the energy to observe our prayer or to come to Mass.

So here is to giving 110%, may we realize the joy in our relationships, as we get closer to 50%.